Married on a Crucifix
Fr Michael Mullan, LC
Imagine a world without divorce. Imagine families without separation. Imagine no children or hearts torn apart.
People of one place in this world do not have to imagine.
In the town of Siroki-Brijeg in Herzegovina not one of the 13,000 inhabitants can recall a single divorce or broken family.
What is their secret? One look at their marriage rite says it all.
When the bride and bridegroom go to the church to be married they carry a crucifix with them. The priest blesses the crucifix and exclaims, “You have found your cross! It is a cross to love, to carry with you, a cross that is not thrown off but rather treasured.”
When they interchange the marital vows, the bride puts her right hand on this crucifix and the groom puts his right hand over hers. Both are united to the cross. The priest covers their hands with his stole while they pronounce their promises to love each other in good times and in bad.
Then they both first kiss the cross, not each other. If one abandons the other, they abandon Christ on the cross.
Afterwards, the newly-weds cross the threshold of their home to enthrone that same crucifix in a place of honour. It becomes the reference point of their lives and the place of family prayer.
In times of difficulty and misunderstandings, as all human relationships experience, they do not turn immediately to the lawyer or psychologist, they turn to the cross. They kneel, cry and open up their hearts begging for the strength to pardon and implore the Lord’s help.
The children are taught to reverently kiss the crucifix daily and to thank God for the day before going to bed. These children dream of enthroning one day a crucifix of their own.
The family is indissolubly united to the cross of Christ. Is this simply a morbid outlook on marital and family life? Or is it a piece of wisdom that few in our modern world can understand. Until our world does, it will continue to imagine and long for the unbroken hearth.
"The Sacrament of marriage comes as do all the sacraments from the wounded side of Christ as He lay ‘asleep’ in death, when Christ was pierced by a sword and blood and water and the Holy Spirit flowed out. At that moment the Church and all the sacraments came from the side of Christ as Eve was taken from the side of Adam. The Church is the Bride of Christ and the Catholic marriage is to be a living example of Christ and His Bride the Church. If the Catholic couple lives in a state of grace and has the sacrament of marriage they receive constant grace from God to love one another with the very LOVE of God. It is the vocation of the spouses to sanctify one another and be open to new life. According to Archbishop Sheen it takes 3 to get married: husband, wife and Christ. Marriage works in Christ.”
—my friend Kathleen Ann
While we show them love.
Can we please stop making fun of people who are over 20 and are still virgins
Can we please stop making fun of people who are not interested in sex/are repulsed by sex
Can we please stop making fun of people who aren’t interested in a sexual or romantic relationship
Can we please stop making tv shows about virgins trying to lose their virginity like it’s a leech upon their life destroying all of their goals and opportunities?
So I’m at the mall today and man, the question I keep asking myself is: In 5 to 10 years, what clothes are girls going to be wearing? will they be wearing any clothes at all?
And I’m not shaming or judging or calling them sluts , that’s the last thing I want to do, but it seems that every year shorts keep getting shorter and shirts and tops keep getting smaller. They leave nothing to the imagination. And as a guy I think I’m pretty good at controlling my eyes, but you see some guys just salivating over some of the girls. Some are even drooling.
Many of the girls I saw today, you could actually see thru the shirt, or the way it was made show 80% of their bras.
The worst thing is, that for some girls is really hard to find something decent. You go thru stores and that is all you find.
And I know that if a girl dresses like that, she is not asking for anything, men have to be able to control themselves, but if I was a girl, out of respect for myself I would not dressed that way.
Now, I also dislike when guys like to go shirtless, I mean what’s the point? It’s hot? Taking off your shirt doesn’t really do much. You want to show of your great abs? Cool bro.
I know I. might get some hate because of this, but it really bothers me that we have no respect for our bodies. Girls claim that guys don’t respect them, well show some respect for yourself.
They say that fashion is a cycle and we always go back. I really do hope that this cycle of wearing the smallest garments possible ends soon and never comes back. I’m afraid if this continues the next fashion will be just hanging out in our underwear.